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When women watch porn

Women watch porn, but not as often as guys do. Also, the porn images that women masturbate to can be different from the ones men prefer.

Researchers are finding that women tend to prefer porn gif’s, which are brief animations that last only a few seconds and keep repeating. The gifs are often just as explicit as the porn men watch, but because they are so brief, there is less chance they contain material that women find offensive.

It’s also possible that women prefer to watch Tumblr porn, which is often made of .gifs or still shots that couples make of their own love lives.

Image by Dany Peschl from his Disturbation Project.

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A woman’s breasts are usually not the same size

More than 90% of women have breasts that are different from each other in size, shape, or position on their chest. It’s usually the left breast that’s larger, and in almost 25% of women, the larger breast is at least one cup size bigger than the other. This can make bra shopping quite a challenge.

Over the course of a woman’s lifetime, her breast size will change up to six or seven times.

Also, a woman’s hormones influence almost every aspect of her breasts. This is why it’s perfectly normal for women’s breasts to change in consistency and sensitivity from week to week during each menstrual cycle.

The NSFW part of the image gallery is by Lee Meier from Portland Oregon. If you need a professional photographer for a wedding, portrait, Z-card, or for a special occasion or event, contact Lee at Mono Graphics Studios.

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Free Chapter: Having sex when you are living with your parents

Most young adults either got married soon after college or they got an apartment or lived with roommates. Or they moved out after high school. But that has changed, and it’s changed in a big way.

Researchers have found that more young adults are living with their parents than ever before.

If that’s your situation, CLICK HERE for a free chapter Sex after You Move Back Home from the Guide To Getting It On.  It covers the issues—and solutions—for dealing with sex under your parents’ roof after you move back home.

More praise for our video on The Clitoris!

“This is one of the best videos I have reviewed in years on the role of the clitoris in sex.” —Dr. Michael Perelman, Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, Reproductive Medicine, and Urology at the NY Weill Medical College of Cornell University, former President of The Society for Sex Therapy and Research and a Fellow of the Sexual Medicine Society of North America and the International Society for Study of Women’s Sexual Health.

“This video is wonderful!  Super comprehensive and engaging. This is so needed.” —Heather McPherson M.A., LPC-S, LMFT, Southwest Sexual Health Alliance

“Awesome! Great info, and I love the editing.” —Dr. Jill McDevitt, www.TheSexologist.org

—To watch on YouTube, Click Here.

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The strangest things women say they have masturbated with

Once a woman gets to be in her twenties, she usually has access to vibrators and dildos if that’s what she would like to use for masturbation. But before then, the variety of objects that women use to get themselves off with is truly impressive.

Recently, one of the askReddit questions was “Women, what’s the strangest thing you’ve masturbated with?” There have been more than 4,000 responses. Here are some of them:

~I used to have a bed with a ball on the post (the post was only about about 2 feet high and the ball on the post was quite small) and I remember using that.

~One of those tubes of M&M minis before I was old enough to buy a real sex toy. It worked well. I think they still sell these.

~A toy Gandalf. Technically it wasn’t really masturbation I just wanted to see if he would fit. When I first put him down there he wasn’t sure which hole to go in.

~A blanket pulled tight up between my legs that I humped at til I came. It was awesome.

~A pillow. I’m 22 and it still gives me a better orgasm than any of my actual toys.

~An electric toothbrush.

~One time when I was 14 I straddled a huge Scooby-Doo I won at Kings Island and road him to Kingdom Cum. I only got to do it once though because I busted him open. I was cleaning up that weird foam filler for weeks.

~I found a finished roll of one of those sticky lint removers, and the handle was pretty phallic shaped. To keep it even smoother and easier to use I took a rubber glove and put one of the fingers over the handle and just tied the rest around the non usable portion. It worked pretty well when I was 16 until I finally got the courage to just go buy a real dildo.

~A prismacolor marker in powder blue that I dipped in wax several times to increase the width. I then wrapped it in saran wrap and went to town…

~N64 controller with a Rumble Pak. I just walked Mario into a corner and rumbled away. (This was 15 years ago.)

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Sex, Asperger’s and Autism

Here is an extensive list of books, articles and websites that I’ve put together on sex, Asperger’s and autism.

I’ve tried to divide these resources into two parts: Part 1. For parents, teachers, therapists, teens and preteens, and Part 2. For adults with autism and their partners who may or may not have autism.

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It’s okay to give blowjobs, but not this?

A recent study of young adults from the UK found that both men and women consider performing oral sex on a woman to be a “far bigger deal” than performing oral sex on a man.

“Many young men referred to vulvas negatively — as ‘dirty,’ ‘disgusting,’ ‘nasty,’ ‘droopy,’ ‘messy,’ ‘saggy,’ ‘stinking,'” the study’s authors write. As one 18-year-old man who participated in the study reported, “[If] a guy does it to a girl… boy, is his life over, because everyone knows about it.”

Women said they were aware of the male views, and that this made them less likely to enjoy receiving oral sex.

From Refinery 29 by Hayley MacMillen.

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From an expert on hymens

I just received the following comment from an expert on the hymen whose study I had quoted in a post I did for the Psychology Today Blogs titled The New York Times Is Wrong about Hymens—But They Are Not Alone:

Paul,

I found your article on hymens to be refreshingly accurate. I am a Pediatrician whose specialty for the past 28 years has been the medical evaluation of suspected child sexual abuse. The article you quoted about adolescent girls with and without a history of consensual intercourse is mine.

There are actually 2 myths about the hymen; one dangerous and one protective for women:

The first and oldest myth is that the hymen always breaks the first time a woman has vaginal intercourse, and will bleed. The second is that athletics or tampons can break the hymen. These are not supported by any evidence whatsoever.

The hymen is stretchy!!! That is why most women don’t bleed after their first time.

There are 3 possible explanations for why tears to the hymen are rarely seen, even in young girls after they have told someone about sexual abuse. The first possibility is that no abuse actually occurred. The second is that there was abuse, but it did not cause any injury to the hymen. The third is that there was injury, but it healed completely by the time the child was examined, to the point where no visible injury could be identified. I end up explaining the myth of the hymen when testifying in cases where the child’s description of the abuse is crystal clear, but the examination shows no sign of injury.

As far as the definition of virginity, there many. What I tell my patients, even those adolescent girls who I’ve examined after a sexual assault (and may actually have signs that the hymen was torn) is that a person is a virgin until they have consensual, awake and aware sex with a person they are in love with.

Joyce Adams, MD

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How wet do women get when they are not aroused?

A gynecologist who consults for my book says you wouldn’t believe how many women think their vaginas should be dry when they are not feeling sexually aroused.

Here’s the reality: it’s not unusual for there to be enough discharge from a woman’s vagina to dry on her underwear or to soak through it. This is not related to sexual arousal. It’s what vaginas do, and it’s happening all of the time. Secretions are the body’s way of doing maintence on a woman’s uterus and vagina.

According to the University of Illinois, “Normal discharge may appear clear, cloudy white, and/or yellowish when dry on clothing. It may also contain white flecks and at times may be thin and stringy.” This can vary depending on where a woman is during her menstrual cycle, with changes in her diet, emotional stressors, taking medications including the pill, and pregnancy.

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Talc and Ovarian Cancer

A jury in Missouri has awarded $72 million to the family of a woman who died from ovarian cancer. The woman had dusted her crotch with talc from Johnson & Johnson for much of her life, just like millons of women do in the US, Canada and the UK.

It didn’t help Johnson & Johnson’s case that one of their medical consultants informed them in 1997 that “Anybody who denies the risk of using hygienic talc and ovarian cancer will be publicly perceived in the same light as those who denied a link between smoking cigarettes and cancer; denying the obvious in the face of all evidence to the contrary.”

And then there was the esteemed gynecologist from Harvard who stated that powdering female genitals with talc could be a contributing factor in 10,000 cases of ovarian cancer each year.

The jury only needed to deliberate for five hours before finding Johnson & Johnson guilty.

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Hypospadias explained

Hypospadias is one of the most common birth anomalies there is. It occurs in 1 out of every 125 to 250 boys, although mild forms of hypospadias may be even more common than this.

Hypospadias is a condition where the urethra doesn’t go to the end of the penis. The urethra is the tube inside the penis that urine and semen pass through. In mild cases of hypospadias, the urethra comes out near the end of the penis, but not quite. In more severe cases, it can come out anywhere from below the head of the penis to the area between the scrotum and anus which is called the anogential region.

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Her first time receiving oral sex

A young woman’s answer to our sex survey question “Please describe one or two of your best sexual experiences”:

“The first time my boyfriend went down on me, I was caught completely off guard. We had been making out and he had been fingering me. When he asked if he should keep going I said, ‘Yes,’ thinking he meant doing the same. Then he began pulling down my pants and underwear and I remember thinking that I didn’t expect that but I didn’t want him to stop. As it was happening, I realized it was the first time I’d ever been naked in front of someone this way, and I instinctively covered my face with my hands. I suddenly felt overexposed. When I looked at him, he smiled at me—sweetly, reassuringly, making sure I was still okay. As he started going down I remember thinking, ‘Is this really happening?!’ The sensation was alien. The novelty of the situation prevented me from fully appreciating the sexual stimulation. But the emotional intimacy was so electric and pure that the experience was transcendent and will stay with me always.”

This very cool image is of Karly and Sean from the What You See Fit Tumblr.

  • A guy without a shirt who's unzipped his pants. He is wearing no underwear, and you can see his pubic hair.
  • A couple naked and standing together, with a focus on their public hair.
  • The profile of a woman who is laying on a bed, showing her pubic hair.
  • An interesting close up of a woman's pubic hair.
  • A woman's mons pubis and pubic hair protruding above the water while she's in the bath.

Contrary to what many young adults assume, it’s normal to have pubic hair

The people in slideshow above are from the Tumblr Slide To Unlock. They are a creative couple from the UK who have been married for more than ten years. They created their Tumblr as a chronicle of their sex life.

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Sex in the shower—Best Advice Ever!

GET GRIPPER BARS! Get ADA approved gripper bars for shower sex. The person on the receiving end can lean forward and grab the bars, making shower sex safer and more fun.

These bars start at less than $25: Moen 8942 Home Care 42-Inch Grab Bar Stainless 42 inches (4.8 out of 5 stars from 158 reviews on Amazon, but none mention sex). Also: Moen 8736 Home Care 36-Inch Grab Bar, Stainless , 18″ to 42,” (4.8 out of 5 stars from 322 reviews, but none mention sex).

These Moen Saftey Bars are rated at 500 lbs. pull strength and are ADA compliant—not that the ADA rates equipment for shower sex.

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An Unusual Sex Survey

I’ve now collected more than 11,000 of your sex surveys.

While I have seldom found there to be a “typical” women’s survey response, the men’s survey answers tend to be more predictable. That’s why the survey I’m posting today stood out as being unusual.

This man likes having sex with women, but he is aroused by looking at penises. He posts photos of his own penis online every day. He also enjoys transgender porn and cock’n’ball torture. So if you’re a guy who is into the things this man is, you can take solace in knowing that you’re not alone.

A 32-Year Old Man

I am a sperm-donor baby and never knew my father.

I grew up identifying as straight and have only had physical/romantic relationships with women. But now I consider myself “open to all options” and have been interacting more erotically with men in online forums. I am still strongly attracted to women, but I also find men’s genitals incredibly arousing.

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Is semen safer to eat than sprouts?

The nation’s most prominent food safety-lawyer has made a list of the six foods he will never eat. This guy has sued Chili’s, Chi-Chi’s, Chipotle, Costco, ConAgra, Dole, KFC, McDonald’s, Odwalla, Sizzler, Taco Bell and Wendy’s. He clearly knows his food borne bacteria.

High on his list of the most dangerous foods are raw bean sprouts—including alfalfa, mung beans, clover and radish sprouts. These can make you very sick due to bacterial contamination of their seeds.

Bean sprouts smell like semen and semen smells like bean sprouts. That’s because they both contain a chemical called spermine. But it seems like semen is safer to swallow. However, in the overall scheme of things, French kissing is probably a more frequent source of disease transmission than swallowing semen or eating sprouts.

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What is polyamory?

Polyamory is when a relationship involves more than two people, with the consent of everyone involved. Polyamory is a broad term which can include group relationships, or it can be a single person who chooses to have multiple relationships without an agreement of monogamy. The relationships often include friendship, love, and emotional commitment in addition to sex.

Polyamory is different from swinging. Swinging is where primary couples switch partners while everyone is in the same location. Swinging is usually more about recreational sex, while people who are into polyamory share emotional as well as sexual feelings.

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A new STI that should make you want to use condoms

There’s a recently discovered sexually transmitted infection called Mycoplasma genitalium. It was first discovered in 1980, but researchers weren’t even sure it was an STI for several years. It is extremely small and difficult to culture, and there are no approved tests to detect it.

Some of the challenges scientists have faced with Mycoplasma genitalium are similar to the story of the blind men and the elephant. But unlike the elephant, which is one of the largest living creatures, this new STI is one of the smallest living organisms ever discovered. It has the shortest genetic code of any single-cell organism that is capable of self-replication, yet it can cause a man’s urethra to become chronically inflamed and make his penis constantly drip. Or it may be able to attach to a sperm and get a free ride up a woman’s fallopian tubes where it could possibly give her pelvic inflammatory disease.

A considerable problem in treating Mycoplasma genitalium is that it doesn’t have a cell wall. Most antibiotics work by attacking a protein in the bacteria’s cell wall. So if there’s no cell wall, there are fewer ways to kill the bacteria. Drinking a Slurpee at 7-11 would be as effective in fighting this bacteria as most front line antibiotics.

Another problem is how this new STI is quickly becoming resistant to the few treatments we do have. So if you are having casual sex or you are not exclusive, be sure to use condoms.

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Olympic Champion Gus Kenworthy Comes Out

Gus Kenworthy, who was an olympic freestyle skiing medalist at the 2014 Sochi Games, came out as being gay last December.

Kenworthy told Us Magazine, “I used to hook up with girls to be cool with the guys; there were times I would cry afterwards.” (Some of the women he dated included Miley Cyrus and figure skater Gracie Gold.)

“I was worried I’d be known as ‘the gay skier’… and everything else about me would be overlooked.” Nothing of the sort happened. Friends and family have been incredibly supportive.

Kenworthy says it’s insane how many gay athletes have since come out to him, several who are still closeted. Because he competes in such a rugged action sport, he feels like he is helping battle gay stereotypes.

From US Magazine. From Pink News.

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