Alex Minsky wanted to be a marine, not a male underwear model. A roadside bomb in Afghanistan changed that–along with 47 days in a coma and having to relearn to walk and talk. For the rest of the story, click here.

This site began six months ago as an experiment in how to reinvent sex education. But when YouTube banned one of our sex ed videos two weeks ago, it was time to rethink everything, including how to sustain the site for the future.

There was NOTHING wrong with the video and it should never have been banned, unless the planet fell into a worm hole and it’s suddenly 1950 again. So the first questions were how to be effective when the main distribution channels for information and popular culture start behaving like they’re being run by the Tea Party, and when websites that do legitimate sex education can be blacklisted by search engines as porn.

This led to other questions, like how to fund the creation of new content that is requiring more than 40 hours of work a week, which led to a look at everything else about the website—from the wireframing to security and SEO.

We are 80% done with the website changes, and will be re-recording the existing videos tomorrow to be platform agnostic. Hopefully, you’ll be seeing new content by Tuesday or Wednesday. Thanks for your patience.

From our sex survey:

“Masturbating. Cos there’s no partner in crime to laugh about it with later.”

“Masturbating – there’s a level of cover when you’re with someone else.”

“Masturbating. It’s such a personal experience… Sex is talked about more, it’s more accepted socially.”

“If either of my parents walked in on either of these activities, it would be pretty mortifying.”


From one of our male survey takers:

“The least amount of time I give a woman oral sex is 30 to 45 minutes. The key is to make her as comfortable as possible and be able to sense her reaction to what you are doing…  Most women don’t start to relax and go into a stage of comfort until about 10 to 15 min. into it. It also depends on the amount of build-up and the relationship you have.”


Relationships require more time and effort than we often give them.


We are rebuilding the site’s infrastructure from the ground up. This is a good thing, except that posts will be few and far between until next week.

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